I agree with most of what you said. It's not always about like attracting like.

There's also more than just the household work that leads to the divide and women feeling left behind in a marriage.

In the author's article, her friend lost professional time and contact with friends because of following her husband for his advancement. That's very common. Well known fact that most women will do this because it's expected of a wife. Men are less likely to thought so women lose promotions or professional opportunities because they act to preserve the relationship.