I agree for the most part. It's ridiculous because very few people can judge height accurately. It's something that got thrown out there thst some people have latched on to without thinking about and since it causes grievance, the internet propagates it.
The whole height drama histrionics can be easily solved by two things.
Start off with "I prefer" and never a preference to a standard. They're not the same.
Express that preference as a range with a proper reference point.
Example 1: "I prefer dating men who are no less than 2" shorter than me and no more than 4" taller than me; I'm 5'7. Any more or less than that and the sex is unlikely to be as .... easily and robustly athletic ...... as I desire."
Example 2: "I prefer dating women who's natural height falls shoulder level to me and who likes wearing Monster High like gothic platform heels. That's the biggest turn on to me."
See how we just easily cleared up that mess? Use your words people. They are your friends.
I do disagree with what you said about weight in partiality. There are dudes out there saying equally ridiculous things about weight as a standard. And let's face it, a random weight figure is just as arbitrary for the same reasons.
The guy who expects a woman to maintain 120 lbs at all times regardless of anything is being ridiculous.
120 lbs on a woman who's barely scraping 5 ft is chubby. 120 lbs on a woman who's 5'10 is anorexic, if not flat out dangerous.
Your frame (bone size and density) and musculsr density also come into play. As does age. We put on weight as we age, same as men.
At 5'7" my healthy weight range puts me at 121 to 153 lbs. Notice that my absolute base to be healthy and medically function correctly is already a pound over the 120 lbs standard I see men repeating on the internet all the damned time. And I can tell you, that as a stocky woman with a higher than avg natural muscle mass, I start looking sickly and anorexic at 132 lbs. My bones and joints ache and I have no energy.
An arbitrary standard of 120 lbs without considering those other things (overall health) is just as harmful and ridiculous as "6 ft." and that's been the narrative on in the dating marketplace for years.
Food for thought.
