I agree completely with you here BUT with a caveat that is obvious once you have a child.

You don’t want to be establishing paternal competence as the “go to" parent when you’re being invaded. The kids won’t accept it.

Whichever parent is already established as the primary caregiver when war breaks out is the one who gets the responsibility of the kids. This isn’t so much a political decision as it is one the children make. They’re scared, they’re unsettled, they’re being uprooted…they need a lifeline of stability.

If you’re not going to give it to them you might as well send them to the front too because in their panic, they’re going to get themselves or other people killed anyways.

I don’t like that men get drafted either. But until they are equal participants in child care BEFORE war happens, they can protest and bicker about this alone.

I’ve had a child to raise. A responsibility that is in primacy to the responsibility to fight a war.

Now that mine is a legal adult though, if war came I would fight. So would she.