Hmmm. I understand the desire to be loved. Women share it.

But, that kind of thinking doesn't make you a decent guy. It makes you someone who is willing to use another person's body to satisfy yourself, whether it's good for either of you long term or not. It makes you like all the other unsavory guys women have to wade through to find a partner.

I'm not trying to bust your balls here. I'm trying to explain why this thinking is so toxic and frustrating to women.

You go on to compare sex and companionship to water in the desert. But sex isn't a necessity. It's not on the same level as food, water, clothing, and shelter. Those are essential. Sex is not, especially sex with someone else because you can always masturbate or even buy sex without manipulating or using someone else. You're not owed sex and companionship. None of us are. You're not going to die without it.

Then you make the tap water/Evian comparison. I've heard that one before, it seems pretty common. But your comparison is off. It's more like being in the desert and coming upon a village. You stagger to the well for water but it's tainted because there's a bloated corpse in there. Someone comes out and tells you not to drink, come sit in the shade for a while, they're all waiting for a shipment of water that's on its way. But you don't understand their language, so you drink it anyway because you're so desperate. You poison yourself. Then the resultant vomiting and diarrhea contaminates the village common areas and a lot of other people get sick too.

All because you chose to dwell in your desperation rather than respect yourself and others enough to understand what they were trying to tell you. Even if you couldn't understand the language, there were gestures too. But you didn't look. You wouldn't take your eyes off that poisoned water.

And finally, I'm going to give you the same advice my Grandmother gave me about dating. My first Medium article was actually about this advice. But here it is more succinctly. If you want to bring down a deer, you don't sit in a cave and think they'll find you and you don't go hunting at the bottom of a lake where the catfish live. You go where they are and you do things that encourage them to return to where you places your hide. You put out a salt lick. You plant some alfalfa and clover.

If you're going literal years without finding someone interested in you with half of the population being female, you're sitting in a cave.

If marriageable women avoid you, you're making a spectacle of yourself instead of utilizing your "hide". Meaning, your behavior and/or presentation is threatening or off putting.

If marriageable women don't return, you haven't given them a reason to. Most men will equate this one with money and hypergamy, the proverbial 666. That would be another mistake though. Think in terms of companionship and compatibility.

Let's put it like this, a hunter who has planted alfalfa will attract a few deer. But, a hunter who has planted privet, blueberries, alfalfa, crimson clover, and honeysuckle will attract a lot more deer. Those plantings are traits you grow in yourself. Things like humor, compassion, resilience, patience, and steadiness. Those are the things that are attractive to women.

Get away from feeling sorry for yourself because you had to drink "tap water". You know what Evian is? Somebody else's tap water that's been marketed to trick you into both paying more for it and lusting after it.

How's that been working out for you?