Hmm? 🤔

And what exactly is stopping them? There are lots of ways to be useful and be a positive impact on someone's life.

The real issue here is they want to dictate what qualifies as useful rather than actually asking their potential partner what is most of use to her or most needed.

This is an ego problem with the man, not a problem with the wiman being intimidating.

After all, if the man had a strong sense of self to begin with, these insecure thoughts would not persistently plague him. But he doesn't, and so they do. That makes him currently not the best candidate for partnership unless you just want an diy improvement project to be your partnership.