Hey. Even women can be and sometimes are creeps. I was just talking to my neighbor two weeks ago about this woman he used to work for and he had to drop her as a client because she was creepy and wouldn't respect boundaries. And he was absolutely right to do so. Gotta admit though, that conversation left me feeling somewhat vindicated when he said, "I always thought women were being, you know, about that but damn! That's gross. I don't know women put up with that shit!"

That's because he had walked into a conversation I was having with my daughter about a guy on here who keeps claiming that he'd love to grabbed in a bar or creeped on. He's said a lot of things. Anyways, he thought it was hilarious until it happened to him.

I didn't make that comment because he was a man. I made it because what he did, as described, was objectively creepy. Same as that woman who creeped on my neighbor.

This stuff is not hard. I'm sorry, but it's not. You can try to justify all the sgitty behavior till the cows come home but it comes down to one simple thing.

If you see the other person youre interested in as a whole, auto omous person rather than a goal, a means to an end, a gatekeeper, a resource, a doll, etc., then you will see those reactionary behavioral cues and signals because you'll be engaging on a social exchange instead of trying to get something in a way that makes you win.