He wasn't civil, he just uses more polite language. But some of the world's most uncivi people are smooth as cream to your face. You have to look at where what they're saying leads to.

What he's saying he agrees with leads to a loss of autonomy for both women, agency for men, and a death spiral of mutually assured spiritual or personhood destruction for both.

He's basically making incels sound nicer. There's nothing g nice about tyranny. Ever.