Harsh truth. But truth. Nothing but truth.

Gotta add: once you accept this truth, your whole world changes. Your options change. A lot of the stress and despair with raising a child melts away because you're not looking for help where they won't be any. You rely on yourself at the end of the day.

Also, you're closer with your children because you're not gaslighting them that they weren't abandoned too. Everyone can grieve that shit properly and move on instead of seimminh in it their whole lives.

No sense in throwing effort after foolishness.