Hard agree with Spinning Madly On. You'll be better off. This guy needs someone to clean up his messes because he won't stand up.

Also, I feel desperately sorry for that child. It sucks to have shitty parents who emotionally abandon you because they refuse to fuxming grow up but won't give you to someone who will love you and care for you before fucking up your life and destroying your ability to trust or build healthy relatio ships.

She's got a long hard road ahead of her. Poor kid.

It's not your job tonsaceiice your peace of mind and harmony within your own home to fix or mitigate someone else's mess though. You made the right call.