Hang on. Just because the left partner doesn't get the numerous memos that things aren't, in fact, okay, doesn't mean those things weren't said. You get to a point where you don't.want to fight and explain anymore. Lots of times, that's the first time the abandoned partner first starts to listen.

You don't know she was a coward. Just because your partner was, according to you, doesn't mean everyone who leaves is a coward.