Goodness. You thought that was going for the kill? Or venting?

Oooookay.

I just think "its too hard" is a weak argument that goves men a pass and labor dumps on women.

Of course it's hard. Anything you've never done is hard. Anything one makes unnecessarily difficult or more difficult is naturally going to be hard or harder.

But women can't continue absorbing the violence and trauma all this engenders.

It's well past time for all these men to grow up.

And so I reject the notion that men can't because it's hard. They never seem to have too difficult a time doing hard things when it's something they want, do they? I think we have a better answer right there. They simply don't want to.

And hey, amongst women we have our own cohort that needs to grow up too. There's no difference.

I agree with most of the rest of your comment. I didagree that wimrn get nothing but praise for "acting like men" and men get nothing but scorn "for being more feminine". You get a measure of both regardless.