Gareth, you have a defeatist mindset. You’re self sabotaging because your internal dialogue is atrocious.

Those 100 dates that went no where was not a terrible dating life. I’ve had a great dating life because I put myself out there and I tried. I gave dating the time and attention required to be successful, but realized that even with a Deadpool maximum effort, no one is guaranteed a partner in life.

I met a lot of really great people and some real flakes, even a few worrisome types if you know what I mean. I’m still in contact with and hang out with many of them as we’ve become friends.

In what universe is that a poor dating life?

We just weren’t right for each other romantically or just didn’t click.

There’s no shame or failure in that. There’s growth and maturity. Self actualization.

Now, I’ve gotten to a point where I’m less interested in finding a partner. I’m bored with the collective male melt down in the US. We’ve passed the point where I will spend my life with someone, given the political landscape it’s no longer worth the risk to be intimate with someone for me, and I’m happy where I’m at and don’t want things to change right now.

I’ve had a very good and successful dating life. Now, I’m ready for some different sort of adventure so I’ve moved past it. WGTOW.

All those dates were successes because the end result was to the benefit of both parties.

You need to redefine your landscape on what success and failure is, what effort looks like, and whether catering to your fear of rejection is more important to you than finding a partner. Your behavior says it is.

I’m not trying to be mean, you just seem to need some tough love. You’ve allowed yourself to sit and stew in some really trash internal dialogue and you need somebody to take you to task for it so you can snap out of it. Stat.

Otherwise, your date is going to be another "failure". I’d like to hear it went well for you. I really would.

Ossiana, help me out here.