Gareth, those aren’t particularly social things. You need something like a block party. You need groups.
Walks in the park would work if it was something like a group nature walk. Groups, man. Groups. Standing or walking alone outside is not an ample opportunity. It’s just existing.
It’s not enough to just go outside or do daily tasks. You have to do things where you’ll meet people and you have to be socially competent enough and savvy enough to be able to engage with them without creating pressure.
Basically, your goal is to meet people. Just to meet people, not to get laid, not to hook up, not to be validated by female attention, not to be "chosen". You just want to meet people. All people.
Out of those, you’ll choose people you want to get to know better. Some of them will feel the same. They’ll all have friends and acquaintances. You’ll meet those people too. Lather rinse repeat. It’s like waterfall programming. Bad for getting an application to market, perfect for the human social equation and fulfilling human needs.
From all that networking you’ll get your moments of serendipity. Not because you were desperate to punch your V-card, not because you were trying to bag a honey, but because you met someone-- a person-- that you clicked with and who clicked with you. You didn’t roll up on her looking to score because that wasn’t your goal. Your goal is to meet people. All people. Ergo, you gave her a chance to get to know you, unpressured, which them allowed her to develop interest in you organically because she wasn’t put on the spot. It wasn’t coerced, pressured, or desperate.
And she did develop interest. Because she’s a person who has her own human needs, not an object to he used for sex or a clerk who might your V-card.
@HoganTorah wrote an article that hit my feed today. It’s as brutal as a teenage girl. It’s also true. Give it a read.
