Gareth is hyper focused on being picked. He thinks he's putting in some work, but I doubt that based on what he's written. Perhaps it's better to say, he's not doing things that are going to fix his actual problem, but they will help him in other ways.
Shyness does not equal a lack of confidence. My daughter is super shy. She's also extremely confident. They might have some measure of correlation, but being shy is also an attractant, if you play it right.
No offense, but it seems to me like what you British lads lack is not confidence so much as it is courage and a reality check. Perhaps it's the American in me again, but it seems like y'all don't grasp how to build confidence and worse, you're too afraid to try. Confidence is not something that Americans tend to lack, we tend to skew too far the other way. **coughcoughDonald Trumpcough**
Gareth and others talk/write like they think confidence is a medal or something that Princess Leia places over your neck when you've been a good boy. It's weird.
Confidence isn't a trophy, certainly not a participation trophy; it's a tool. One you design and build specific to you to open the doors of opportunity in your life that YOU choose to.
Which brings us back to... I don't think he really wants to open that door of love opportunity. I think he likes the payout in attention he gets from being the poor rejected guy too much. I think he's willing to settle for crumbs, sacrificing his self esteem, rather than scrape together the courage it really grow some meaningful confidence.
He doesn't want to build it, nurture it, grow it, work on it, etc. He wants somebody to give it to him. He wants a handout.
That's why he fails. Women are rejecting the job of providing emotional labor for men and that's exactly what he's demanding in order to be "deemed worthy". He thinks he's earned this because he's a "nice guy". Then, because no one accepts the job he's interviewing them for (because they already have too many jobs), it's because women are liars who just jerk good men around.
Read through his entire body of work. Don't take my word for it. See if you don't pick up this same vibe. If nothing else, you'll boost his material and he'll get benefit from you having read it.
