Frankly, I find this vast majority of men fit here.
I mean, it’s not exactly a polar choice, it’s a spectrum. Most men are on it. Many do not realize it.
That’s what the cultural conditioning of patriarchy does. It makes you hate on half the population and then self loathe because you have to hate on half the population to define yourself and then face the soul blistering resentment they rightfully feel toward you because you’re so damn hateful and apathetic.
Then they rage while digging their own grave, desperately looking for a way to make women love being hated. The obvious answer here is to put down the damn shovel.