For other readers who may passively accept it without thinking it through.

You're making yourself sound like a self absorbed, low self esteem control freak. You rejected a woman who trestes you well and loved you with condition or requirement in favor of someone subservient whonprips up your ego.

That's a you problem. Not everyone shares your viewpoint.

The men in my family mostly want partners. The few who demanded traditional arrangements all ended up alone. Just saying.

It's hard to do 50 years of propping up a weak ego in exchange for scraps. It's a harsh sentence just to wear a white dress for one freaking day and get a stupid ring.