First off, I didn't dismiss your assault and I AM sorry that happened to you. I specifically didn't mention it because you made a point about having to show your "#MeToo card".
I infered that you didn't want to talk about it, resented feeling pressured to, and didn't think it mattered in regards to your argument.
You're right, it doesn't matter. As I said in our previous exchange, it's a hypothetical. Your choice is your choice. There is no right or wrong, just reasoning of why you chose what you chose, which is greatly influenced by how you broke down the individual elements.
I'm a little miffed that me electing to honor your stated wishes is now being hurled against me. But that's okay, I still see it as the subject has you reacting defensively. And that's understandable, you are a rape survivor.
My use of the word pedantic was literal, not an insult to you. I was talking about your reasons for choosing the man reflected the manosphere arguments and thus, likely came across as gaslighting to many women. Reason: those men WERE gaslighting. Therefore, the response from other womeb to you was likely a result of that gaslighting and not about invalidating your choice. Never once did I say that's how I felt about them.
If you want to know how I feel, I'll tell you. You'll either accept that or you won't.
I think there are two ways to interpret the hypothetical: as a rational argument or as a logical argument. If you're in the rational camp, you're going to pick the bear every time. If you're in the logical camp, you're going to pick the man every time.
You're in the logical camp. And there's nothing wrong with that. Your status as an SA survivor is irrelevant to how you perceive the hypothetical upon first encounter.
You should understand, however, that the man who first posed the hypothetical did so as a rational argument against misogynistic displays and how men were cutting theie noses off to spite their faces in the dating landscape. Then some other guy, to prove the first guy was full of shit, went out and did the street interviews and DudeBros lost their damn minds. It blew up from there. The first guy was correct. Most women would now rather be alone in the woods with a random bear than a random man.
Most women know how it came about so for most women, it's only ever been a rstional argument and not a logical one. That doesn't make the logical argument wrong, it makes it less common and politically aligned with misogyny at this point.
Why? Because manosphere types dogmatically insisting that the logical argument is the only valid one to make are gaslighting. You are exempt from that because you clearly understand the rational argument as well.
Me recognizing that your choice to adhere to the logic camp obmver the rational one might be triggering to some does NOT invalidate your choice. I'm simply trying to give you perspective to the broader commentary so that you might better understand and not take it as a personal attack or being turned on.
It's not and you're not being turned on or dismissed. Most women, understanding the hypothetical to be an exercise in rational thinking, simply can't understand why you'd make the same logical rhetoric as gaslighting manosphere types as a rape survivor.
