Except that you didn't. You didn't once being up the equally selfish and shitty behavior of the father.

You expect random, "small" acts of kindness for the sake of the child from a woman who has already said No, regardless of whatever fallout might fall on her (she might have been out of time to take off to do the task as well). You make no mention whatsoever about the obligations of the father and his failures.

That's what I'm going on about. Not that the child has it rough. Let's not confuse or conflate misogyny with selfishness.