Exactly. Sometimes the best way to support someone is to get out of their way and let them get to it.

As long as they're xoming to you for that cookie reward, that validation that they're doing the right thing to get sex and value, then you're both just perpetuating the cycle.

As a fellow woman, I know I don't have to point out to you the feustrstion of constantly shifting goalposts when you place your worth, your self validation in the hands of some obscure media driven image and how you measure up or don't in the eyes of people who don't matter in your life.

Weve been there too. Many of us still are. Pick me girls are a term because they exist. It's a real thing.

Getting free of it means gettinf free of it. Not changing a few lines on the same old tired script. Men need to redefine themselves and what it means to them to be a man in a way that gives them self worth instead of self loathing.

No one can do that for them. They've got to do the work. Just like pick me girls have to finally realize that if they don't live themselves first, no one else ever will.

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