Every bit of your article is spot on. Except this sentence. Doomed? What do you mean here exactly?

Doomed to failure? Define failure. Define success. Do you think we all define success and failure the same?

Doomed equality? That’s always been a shifting goalpost as well and constantly refined concept. What does it mean to be equal? Where do we need equality and where do we need equity? Should that equality bring women in line with men or men in line with women? Who gets to decide?

Maybe success means redefining how we share space in the world, but otherwise going our separate ways. Men live their lives, women live theirs. Find companionship amongst your own kind. Maybe we’d all be happier.

Maybe it means setting aside the idea of romantic love and thinking of men more in terms of a business relationship. The business if raising a family.

Maybe success just means ALL women taking off the rose colored glasses where we see them, really see them, for what they truly are instead of what we want/wish them to be or constantly giving them unearned credit/undue praise, or not automatically thinking the best of them despite all evidence to the contrary or thinking that it’s our job to elevate them to their best selves.