Doesn't matter, Kat. You have less individual and personal responsibility based on your area of influence that you can make change, it's true.

But make no mistake. We cannot countenance a double standard here. We cannot, as feminists, on the one hand demand men take accountability for the cultural norm of violence toward women but then think we can shake our hands of equal accountability.

I had one kid, a girl. Believe you me, she was not raised to accept or tolerate abusive behavior or to look for her sense of self in a man or romantic love. She will be no "princess" waiting on a man in an ivory tower.

Believe you me, if she had been a boy, this "boys will be boys" and "women are meant to service us" bullshit would have found no place to root in his mind. He'd be able to both take care of himself, not be a passive bump on a log, or need to acquire a woman in order to know his value as a man. I don't care how many times I had to smack with a newspaper to get through that thick head. No space to root.

That's a parent's job.

But there are other ways we all contribute to this culture, that kids pick up on intrinsically. We all do it. Just like with the violence issue.

We're not going to pander to aggrieved feelings of manbabies, which I suspect is what's fuelling your disagreement. You'll get no disagreement from me, I'm completely with you on that.

But culturally, we need to flex some feminist introspection and start thinking about some things. And pursuing a course of action to start shifting culture where WE want it to go. We owe it to those who follow, whether you personally had any children or not.