Do you think she owes you sex because you did the dishes?

Are you trying to pay for sex by doing the dishes?

I'm actually not trying to be combative here but the way you worded your comment makes me think you're trying to conduct a transaction or figure out the player code to turn on the magic pussy machine.

When women talk about help around the house or doing the dishes, those discussions aren't about "the dishes". The dishes is a data point. It's not the overall picture. Do you get what I'm saying?

Just because you don't he dishes doesn't mean she feels valued and appreciated in the relationship. If you're hyper focused on sex, she's naturally going to think you desire her pussy and only her pussy. Not her. Like, she could use a magic remote to freeze sex, replace herself with a blow up doll or anyone else, hit okay again and you wouldn't notice the difference.

That kind of constant emotional rejection doesn't exactly direct one toward amorous feelings regardless of whether the sink is empty or not.

You have the be a full partner. You can't expect her to carry the emotional load in full and still feel thrilled about bouncy bouncy or horizonal mamba time, especially with you. That kind of isolation and neglect will kill a sex drive dead.