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As far as what you're actively doing, that's enough as a man or as a woman. Not everyone can lead and most of us just want to live our lives. We all know what happens when there are too many Chiefs and not enough Indians. Not everyone has the passion or support to be a real advocate. Too many so-called advocates on social media representing every group and movement are only advocating in order to make money. Their advocacy is a fraud.

Our job is to discern the difference. To do that we have to understand the movement, know who the true leaders are, who the scholars are, and be able to fairly critique the ideology and the movement. Not everyone is going to be an A string player, you know?

For me, the biggest part of Feminism is in living my life. Just like you. I do hobby work (meaning unpaid, not as a profession, just to try to help) trying to find missing persons, most of whom are women and children. I do focus on women, children, and marginalized but I don't exclude men. If I think there's a reasonable chance I might be able to find them, there's no reason to believe I'm putting myself in harm's way doing so, and every reason to believe they were disappeared rather than choksing to disappear, then I'll look.

Other than that, monetarily I donate to wildlife organizations, not domestic violence shelters. I buy water for wild muatangs, not homeless people. That pretty much makes me more of an Advocate for wildlife than Feminism because that's where my excess resources go. 90 times out of 100.

Still, I do believe in Feminist ideology (gender equality) deeply. It's a part of my every day life in how I choose to live my life, again like how it's supposed to be for Christians. That right there, when done earnestly, with an open heart, accountability of and to oneself, willing news to accept the growing pains, and an eye toward the future (most of us do not experience the results of our feminism. Our daughters do, just as we mostly experience the results of the feminists who came before us.

Circling back around to men. Men should do the same under the broader banner of humanists, if they want. And they should focus on men's issues and lead there rather than labor dump that on women. There are men's groups that focus on men's healing an men's issues. I read a lot of that too, but I don't generally comment there as that's not my space. That's for them. Wish we women got the same consideration.

About male violence. You're right that men are more likely to be murdered than women, however, they are not as likely to be murdered strictly because of their gender and not by the those who claim to love them. They're being murdered disproportionately by (other) men too, so male violence is still the problem. It just impacts differently.