Conscripts don't make the best soldiers. That's why volunteer armies are always the best. This is why I'm against the draft. One of the reasons.

Conscripts make shitty parents too. This is why I'm against anti-choice legislation.

Children KNOW when their parents resent them.

Men don't have to be begged and pleaded to show up when they want to be there. They dont have to have their hands held or told everything they need to know and learn about something they want to do. They don't have to admonished by the courts. They'll just show up and start doing what needs to be done.

When they care. Whatever their own problems are, they don't have to dragged kicking and screaming to do what they want to be doing.

There's a spate of vid clips going viral right now of wedding ceremonies where the grooms are publicly humiliating their brides, a graphic display of some of the petty, vindictive, padsive aggressive, bullshit behavior men do when they are resentful over being 'forced' to do something. In this case, get married after an ultimatum.

I've seen the same sort of shit done to their children for years.

So funny. Just a joke. Hahahaha. Lighten up.

Except, the kids don't believe that bullshit either. And why would they? It's bullshit.

Let me remind you that my reason about not drafting women by lottery due to children was more due to the fact that they were most likely the parent the child was already more familiar with and now you're in a stressful, uncertain, potentially dangerous situation where you need cooperation and trust that already had to be eatablished from the kids. I think I said something along the lines of fleeing a war front was not the time to learn how to parent a toddler, or something like that. And that thy trust is somethinf that gets established from day one.

If you look at my baby pictures, in 8 out of 10 of them I'm with my dad. I'm either asleep on his belly with him passed out on the couch after coming in from maneuvers (Army- volunteer), sitting on his belly or lap, wrapped around his leg getting a "horsey ride", sitting on the workbench while he fiddles with something, or up on his shoulders. Many of my earliest childhood memories feature my grandfathers. From the time I was 4 years old, I spent one month of every summer with each of my grandparents. Were talking jumping footprint to footprint in the potato patch and picking up potatoes or being held up to rub a horse's muzzle sort of stuff. That wouldn't have happened if there had been any resistence to them spending their summers every year to keeping us a month each without fail.

I also specifically remember being a very little girl out with my grandfathers and sometimes when with my dad too and other men mocking them for parenting. Not women. Women fawned all over them. Other MEN. They got hazed every year.

But ultimately, they cares more about the joys of the job than they did about the status of being A Man™, Provider & Protector ©, which is mostly a linguistic sleight of hand to make men feel better about themselves anyways. They did from day 1.

And you can tell it. You can always tell when a kid has a dad or when a kid is overshadowed by someone performing a status identity.

You can ALWAYS tell.

Men have allowed something inherently necessary to their own wellbeing to be tricked away from them chasing after status. They fell for some post WWII propaganda, so did women, and we're all suffering the consequences now of having been socially engineered. Ain't our perfect society grand? Everyone's so happy and well adjusted. Brimming with hope, joy, and confidence. Lolz.

So anyway, in conclusion. Some western countries have pursued a wholehearted balancing and their countries are doing better than those who have not.

Like here (US), where those policies get shot down every time, there's powerful resistence from men led churches, conservatives vote against it EVERY time and play that Man™ status claptrap every time. Men dodge parenting more often than not. Child support arrears is shocking, proving that they're not interested in providing either, not really.

Until those discussions happen in a way that does not blame women for a group problem, degrade mothers for being the only one left standing, shame mothers for all of society's ills and never hold men accountable for their part, and deals with that identity problem of being A Man™....

Then the response is goint to be "come get your kids then".

We been waitin'. We been waitin'' for years. We also figured out a LONG time ago not to hold our breath. In the end, all we get is resentful bloviation and punching down. What we don't see is showing up, stepping up and stepping in. And all that bloviation is more about how men aren't getting reapect for a job they're unwilling to do in the first place. Because if they were, they'd be there doing it, come hell or high water.