Congratulations. Youve transitioned beyons the male promoted transactional mindset and reoriented to a more feminine cultivator mindset.
Most women instinxtively know this. What we've not done a good job of is keepinf ourselves from being drawn into that dynamic.
I like how you emphasized the language choices we use in talking about romantic relationships. I agree that's a huge part of the problem. Language I fluences how we think of things on a subconscious level far more than we realize without a lot of deep self reflection.