Believe it or not, I agree with a lot of what you're saying.

I call it pecking, you're calling it negativity. Women are pecked at our whole lives through from thenmoment we are born until the moment we die. We are pecked at by men, by other women, by our children sometimes, by our institutions and systems, by the internet, by our economic model, and by 'society'. It IS exhausting.

I disagree with Peterson and you that women have less tolerance for pecking. I think we have much more than our counterparts, you men. I see this is the rapid deterioration amongst men now that the marketing propaganda that runs the economic engine has turned it's attention more toward you men because we women are finally tapped out. You men are losing it Frankly, Peterson is a part of this as an Influencer. He's someone you're going to want to be very wary of.

Also, if so many women are abused (pecked at), you're failing to account for who's doing all that pecking. We're not doing it to ourselves. If 90% of women are abused and have trauma, then 90% of men are abusing and creating that trauma, or it's being done on their behalf. Your thoughts here don't go far enough. Maybe you're just not there yet, and that's fine. Maybe you're conveniently glossing over some important realizations to protect your own sense of self and that's less fine.

You've been pecked at too. Pecking is a feature of dominance hierarchy. In small doses, it can be a net good, but there has to be some repeieve from it. It can't be unrelenting and never ending. When that happens, existence becomes a torture and you have high rates of depression and suicides. The more complex and advanced a (population) society becomes, the more intense, prolonged, severe, and relentless, the pecking becomes. And so, ultimately dominance hierarchy kills itself. All systems have limits.

I think we're seeing the reaching of a limit. Either the system changes to stop destroying so many individuals or the population (society) crashes and disbands.

We've got right under 60% of both men and women reporting persistent, deep, and chronic depression. It's hard for anyone to maintain healthy communication, what you're caling self actualization, and healthy relationships when you're thst deeply depressed. It's pretty much impossible. In my thinking, this is why relationships are failing. Depressed person's don't have the mental and emotional bandwidth to do the work of building and maintaining healthy relationships. And they are work intensive. One person cannot carry it indefinitely and broad strokes, that burden has fallen on women. We're exhausted. Simply exhausted, which is a kind of depression itself if there's no rest or no hope of rest.

Is any of this tracking for you?