Being single doesn't make you alone or lonely. It's not a curse. I'm single. I'm not alone or lonely. But I have been extremely lonely, when I was married and as a teenager at home with my family.
You're right, I'm not part of the disabled community and am not part of that world. That said, I'm not completely ignorant or unversed about the challenges the disabled face. My great aunt was mentally disabled due to a brain injury in childhood. She was often wildly inappropriate. I've got several cousins who are disabled in various ways, war amputee, MS, blind, Downs, and another genetic anomaly. The sister of one of my friends growing up had cystic fibrosis. She's gone now. One of my daughter's friends has Downs. In my single mom support group, we used to babysit each other's kids so we could work. On my days, I took care of two autistic kids, a kid with some kind of learning disability, and a traumatized kid who's mother was a bipolar schiziphrenic over the years. Not all at once.
As a member of that community, you face higher consequences if brought under legal or police scrutiny. That's true. And only you can decide whether or not it's worth it to date. But whether or not you do, the #MeToo stories are going to continue and they were already there. Your chances of falling afoul of the police are no higher than they already were before #MeToo.
You've just become more aware of how prevalent rape culture is. That puts you in a higher intelligence bracket than many men who have willfully chosen to stopper their ears and wear blinders, in my opinion but there we have it.
I'm not telling you, your concerns aren't valid or that you should date. I'm not saying that lonely people, no matter who they are or their station in life are undeserving of compassion for their loneliness. After all, I've made the same choice to not date any more.
I am saying that specifically regarding expressions of compassion from women in Medium, there's a reason why they react the way they do and it's not because they lack compassion. It's because they've been under assault.
I'm saying that your reasons for not dating should not be fear or based on propaganda fear mongering that's not based in reality. I'm saying that if you choose to not date, it has no bearing on whether or not you are lonely. There may be a loose correlation between the two, but there's no direct causation or written in stone fate. You are not doomed to loneliness. No one is. You can address your loneliness and you don't even need women to do so.
Also, about dating. If you're kefitimstely worried about it, give yourself some boundaries and group date to alleviate some of that pressure and concern.
Where is it written that only middle school kids and teenagers can group date?
