Because for a lot of people, that’s exactly what happens. Not for everyone, but many.

We need to be able to say, “I don’t want kids" but leave room to change our minds. It needs to be okay if how we feel about having kids doesn’t change too.

There’s nothing wrong with wanting kids, not wanting kids, only wanting one kid, not being sure if you want kids, not wanting kids right now, wanting kids later in life, wanting kids earlier in life, and so forth and so on. We need to stop judging other people’s thoughts on kids and trust they’ll make the best decision for their own lives that they can. And that sometimes, despite all best intentions and efforts, pregnancy happens; and it’s not the end of the world.