Basically, she said that shifting the narrative to his problems is a dick move. She was a bit incensed that your comment left off the fact that his *possible* mental health struggles are costing the author her physical health. She also pointed out that she can't fix that for him because he's an adult and his refusal to do so is part of toxic masculinity. She also related that men can create for themselves all the safe space they need to deal with their shit and that if it mattered to them at all, it would be done already.

These are fair points. As I've stated before, I don't doubt that the guy has depression or something. So does she. His condition is making her depressed and anxious to the point of needing medical massage.

Your comment had the tone of screaming to someone being held underwater, "Have compassion! This person you're tied to doesn't mean to drown you. They just can't swim!"

Sorry, but it did. Don't worry about it though, we've all been there.