As to the point about lesbians, that's not what I was getting at. I was talking about getting into relationships before one is capable of being one in a healthy way. That's not about being a lesbian, it's just as true or children of addicts, children of Narcissists, children who were avused and neglected, etc.

It's about childhood trauma and needing to unpack that trauma so you don't repeat it down the road.

Where lesbians come in specifically, is that a lot conservative and religious families don't accept their LGBTQ children and they cause a lot of trauma. .y own personal observatios over the years is that fathers are dismissive and brutsl towars gay sons and lesbian daughters more or less equally. But mothers ate more likely to accept snd protect gay sons than they are lesbian daughters. Broad strokes. I think that makes a big difference later on in future romantic relationships.

Of the leabian couoles I have known, the ones who came from liberal, loving, accepting families are so solid. They're the ones that when you see them, you say, "I wish I was a lesbian, because then I would have a real chance be loved in return".

The ones who came from conservative families are usually a mess for a lot of years unless they get away and really separate from their birth family. Religious and Fundies....they're a hot mess. Lot of women coming out of these families have deep emotional and mental problems. Lot of personality disorders. Lot of addiction. Lot of abuse and neglect.