And yet they do define themselves by settinf themselves apart from women and then assigning "badness" to feminine things.

Then, growing up, it's "don't be a pussy!"

Why? Because pussies aren't as good as penises.

"Don't be so emotional and cry!"

Why? Because men are stoic and women are emotional. That's why they're weak. Crying makes you weak.

And all the things.

That's where all that low level contempt comes from.