And therein lies the rub. In order for men to gain equality, they need to stop looking g to women to manage their lives for them and do things for themselves instead of to get validation or attention from women.

Feminists have been pointing out forever now that there is literally nothing stopping men from being ravaged by thr manbox except themselves. Their own lack of initiative or impetus.

She may be a feminist; I'm not sure her involvement here is an act of feminism.

And you too, are overly concerned with validation, scoring, and positive affirmations of manhood over neutrality in perception of manhood.

You can't have both. You either are willing to be judged on the content of your character or you want that identity based fawning.

You say you want the former. Your actions and where you lean again and again and again are toward the latter.