And there it is. 'Deeper Understanding' and all these men are demonstrating that they are in relationships to win, not to mutually benefit.

Hence the control and manipulation tactics. When you're in it to win it, every boon she has, every good day, every up best, every good thing that happens for her is a loss for you. It's her advancing and doing better than you. So you've got to drag her down to get ahead or even make yourself feel better.

Damn. These men.