And round and round we go. I love how you bemoan the fact that men are expected to make the first as a justification for approaching women on a thread that started out criticizing women for assuming men were coming on to them whenever they speak to them in public. Irony.

When my grandmother wanted to attract my grandfather’s attention, she befriended his mother and started hanging out with her at church.

When my other grandmother wanted to get my other grandfather’s attention, she started shopping at the gas station he owned with his brother regularly. And she dressed up.

My aunt’s. My mother. Me. Step sisters. Friends. On and on....

When women are interested in you, or curious about you they will put themselves in your line of sight, in your sphere. They’ll look to be seen.

This phenomenon is well established and has been for hundreds of years. It’s even in literature. Pride and Prejudice is the oldest example that comes immediately to mind. There are many others though, that’s just the first one I thought of. I always found the handkerchief scene hilarious. Jena Malone nailed it.

The take away here is that just because you men are the ones to make the overture doesn’t mean you’re the ones to make the first move.