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2 min readOct 24, 2023

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And again, amends is not restitution.

Amends should never have to be asked for. Amends should be given freely as an act of love (not necessarily romantic love, all forms of love) in order to strengthen and have a relationship between two parties, like two people, two groups, two nations.

Perhaps Poland would fixate less on reparations if amends had been sufficiently offered.

As I said, I'm not engaging in the act of amends because Urchling asked for it. As I said, she didn't even recognize she had been wronged in our situation. This time around, me going through making amends is about the nature of the relationship I want to have with her.

Because love is an action verb.

Real love is always in motion. It never sits up on its laurels and falls into emotional slovenliness. It doesn't shirk accountability for its own existence or the business of 'being alive'. In a sense, real love is alive. It functions much the same in some pretty telling ways. Ways that will speak to you about the nature of love and relationships to those who will heart listen.

Men need to make amends if they want meaningful and deep relationships with women. By and large, I don't think they do though. I think they're more than satisfied with a transactional type arrangement. That's fine, if that's what men want, but men don't get to have things like loyalty, real affection, esteem, etc on a transactional arrangement. Do you think your grocer gives a twit about you as a person? Of course not, they're only there for the transacrion too. That's what they care about because it benefits them too. Or it did, enough.

I think it's clear the benefit has been outweighed by the detriments enough that the transaction model has lost its appeal for women. They're losing interest in the marketplace.

Amends would help that.

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