Again, only online.

If you want a meet cute, you’re going to have to get off the dating apps, firm up some social skills, and go out and invite serendipity. It actually doesn’t just happen on its own. You have to set the stage.

People online are shopping. That’s why you see all those ‘requirements’. Think about it. The internet opens up infinite potential possibilities as well as dangers. The apps themselves are organized like a catalog. A catalog of people.

Now. When you make a major purchase of anything else, computer, car, house; don’t you have a list of requirements BEFORE you start shopping? How often do you just cutely stumble across a car you want to buy from a magical incidence of serendipity?

Exactly.

It’s not that everyone is transactional. It’s not that everyone has requirements. It’s that you’re overly focused on those places where those people are. You’re in the wrong environment.

As my Grandma would say, "you’re hunting for bucks at the bottom of a lake. Are you really surprised you’re only finding catfish?' Grandma was a feckin’, genius.

Gareth, youre a stubborn ass. Out of fear and avoidance, sure, but you’re either going to have to accept the transactional nature of online dating or turn the computer off, stop playing games, learn some social skills, and go out into the 'wild’. You need some Grandma discipline and the pan of biscuits that usually went with it. As one fellow stubborn ass to another, and with all affection......🗞️🗞️🗞️

Snap out of it.

Urchling and I got your point, we were poking at it because you were chosen by the scammer. Chosen to be a mark.