Actually, it sounds like you and I mostly agree. If that’s misandry, I’ll happily share my badge with you.

Yes. Absolutely. More women should divorce lackluster men instead of whining about them. They should manage their own affairs instead of leaving it to men. Its kind of hypocritical to bitch about getting screwed financially when you willingly gave control of your finances over to someone unequal to the task in the first place based on some old out of place tradition or religion. Absolutely. Do not think I don’t want to see more women stepping up and taking full responsibility for their own lives.

However, by the same token .... I want to see the same from men. It’s hypocritical to bitch about the responsibilities of raising a child and being forced into the role of a father and bitch about how unfair the family court systems are to men when you never took responsibility for your half of the reproductive process in the first place. You didn’t want to wear a condom and you wouldn’t get a vasectomy. You couldn’t wait long enough to get squared away because in that moment you’re thinking blue balls are just the absolute worst. Further, it’s more important for the vast majority of men to rack up pussy counts than to respect your own dicks enough to care about where and with whom you put them. When there are natural consequences, the whining starts. The resentment starts. The bashing starts.

I’d like to see more men stepping up and taking full responsibility for their own lives and the consequences of their choices. Absolutely. Obviously, that also includes your own mental and emotional landscapes.

You have to deconstruct your own harmful belief systems. No one can do it for you, any more than men could for women over marketing that left us killing ourselves with eating disorders, body modification surgeries, and shredded self esteem and self worth.

In the end, it doesn’t matter where it came from (hands down, for both men and women the propaganda is coming predominantly from monied interests. Yes, religion is a monied interest). It doesn’t matter. If you want it to get better, then we all have to take responsibility for what we allowed ourselves to believe, deconstruct, and make changes moving forward.

I busted the OP’s balls a little bit because he wasn’t just talking about men’s problems, he was asking for women to solve them for him; to be babied or coddled. Women will end up being blamed for that if they try because it won’t work. In fact, they already are.

There are a fair number of men on this platform writing about men’s problems and doing good work. It’s always a joy to see and support.

This article, wasn’t one of them. It just wasn’t.

Again, if that makes me a misandrist then give me back my badge. I’ll wear it with pride. I’ll also still support the men who are doing the actual work and not trying to dodge via manipulstive cries for compassion and empathy and laying all of men’s woes at the feet of women like you expect your mom to continue doing your laundry for you when you’re 40 years old.

And yes, there are plenty of feminists who do the same thing. I am not one of them.