Actually, I wouldn't. With caveats.

I disagree with the narrative that you can tell when a man is abusive before you get married every single time.

I can recognize that many women, larticukarly women raised in conservative and religious families are raised in a fashion that makes them ignorant of abuse, makes them think they deserve it or have to put up with it to get into heaven, stuff like that.

But, once you've chosen to stay, you made a choice.

In that same vein, I also believe, actuallyz that men are socialized and raised to not be mindful about their sexuality and who they assiciate with. Too many men think they have to get pussy to have value, bad pussy is better than no pussy, they're ignorant of reproduction, their part in the process, or the notion that they should be reproductively responsible for themselves. That kind of thing.

That said, we're not going to be doing a double standars here.

If we're going to admonish women that they should have just chisen better men when things go bad, even when they've clearly been ill prepared with the tools to have ever had a prayer in hell of ever making a good choice....which is what we've collectively decided that ks predominantly to misogynistic rhetoric....then that will apply to men as well.

Which brings us back to my comment. You get back what you put out there.

Gentlemen, if you want empathy and understanding for your difficulties and failures, you HAVE TO give it to your opposite in turn.

No more double standards. What's good for the goose is good for the gander.