Actually, I was referring to your tendency to tone police and over focus on "politeness"

But also broadly, overall, and generally.

People say really mean, hateful and hurtful things politely all the time.

People say things baldly, brashly, directly, matter of factly, crudely, profanely that are actually kind if they save you from erring in some way later down the road, even if it hurt your feelings in the moment.

People are people. They're just who they are. If you can't accept them as they are you either psrt ways amicably or one of you will try to force the other into being what you think they should be. That doesn't end well and it's not very kind, regardless of how politely you couch the attempt.

So yes, that goes the other way too. It's kind of hilarious you seem to think I never get my feelings hurt, or don't have people talking to me the way I talk.