Absolutely. You shouldn't have to walk around on eggshells in your own home. You should be able to relax and unwind.

But you also shouldn't be expected to put in a full day and then come home and constantly ALSO have do all these jobs that get labeled as "being someone's peace" but really is just weaponized incompetence for them to take advantage of you.

I'm really not liking the language of "being someone's peace here". I'm not saying those aren't good things, I'm eating they cant become a second or third shift because you're dumping on your partner.

Theres a difference between protecting/providing space for someone so they can be at peace and restore in their own home, in other words not destroying their peace, and requiring someone to be your peace, which will ultimately destroy their peace.